My #ReadIndies book today is from a publisher I only came across recently – Cōnfingō Publishing. Based in Manchester, their website states that they “create beautiful editions of new fiction, poetry and art in all forms. Twice a year we produce a unique collection of previously unpublished works”. The book which caught my attention was “My Second Home” by Dave Haslam, a wonderful work which captured Sylvia Plath’s time in Paris – I wrote about it here, and loved it so much that I had to buy a signed bundle of Haslam’s works!
So I thought I would pick up another of these for #ReadIndies, and chose the first of his titles “A Life in Thirty-Five Boxes”; subtitled “How I Survived Selling My Record Collection”, it’s a work guaranteed to make any book or record (or indeed *anything*) collector stop and think about the stuff they store in their home…
Few of us own only a few possessions. We hold onto things, even when we don’t really know why. If you don’t throw things away, you’re collecting; by default.
Haslam is of course a DJ, so vinyl records have been his stock in trade. In the book, he explores not only his own collecting impulse but that of many others. What *is* it that makes humans want to collect stuff? Why do we have this need to gather the complete works of a music maker or author? Is it logical or even controllable? As someone who definitely has the collecting gene, if such a thing exists, I’ve definitely been prey to the irrational, emotional need to obtain a specific item, and have looked at it years later and wondered why I felt it was quite so essential…
Why do so many of us hug pieces of vinyl to our hearts? Because we know that each record is so much more than a hundred and twenty grams of treated and pressed polyvinyl chloride resin. Each record is a tangible token of who we were when we fell in love with that piece of music. The collection, however small and disorganised, represents a personal journey through music, our changing passions, our pleasures, our life. Our moments of rapture, and moments of regret.
As Haslam talks to other collectors and considers his own tendencies, it’s very clear that as human beings we get really strong emotional attachments to the objects which make up our lives. Certain records, certain books are connected with particular periods of our lives, becoming part of what makes us what we are. That attachment is what makes it hard for some of us to let go of our possessions as we get older – they’re something fundamental to who we are and so letting go is letting go also of our identity. I understand this feeling completely, as it’s something I struggle with when trying to thin my own collection of music and books. Some titles have been with me for most of my life (my original PIL Metal Box, the first single I ever owned which was bought for me by my grandmother, the Emily Dickinson Selected Poems I acquired in my teens). It’s definitely harder to part with things you’ve owned for decades, and I find more recent acquisitions can be passed on with less trouble…
Nevertheless, Haslam *does* sell his record collection, is happy to have found a good home for it, and feels lighter for taking this action. Getting rid of a big chunk of your life like that is a radical action, yet he’s able to move on, experiencing music in different format and resisting the inevitable temptation to start yet another collection…
So my second Cōnfingō/Haslam read was just as satisfying as my first, albeit the books are very different. One of the thing I love about the indie publishing model is that slim, thought-provoking works like this can make it into print in lovely editions and reach a wider audience than they otherwise might. Cōnfingō is another indie I can highly recommend and you might want to take a look at their website here – there are some very intriguing titles!
Feb 12, 2022 @ 09:38:00
Interesting.
I fractured my skull and became deaf forty years ago so I could no longer listen to music, but it’s only now when I have to move that I’m getting rid of my LPs. There are also all the books I bought because I’d get round to reading them one of these days. Are these days these days or will these days never come, so I ought to get rid of them?
Feb 12, 2022 @ 14:05:49
I suspect if you’re like me you’ve acquired many books for the day you will one day get to them. I’m certainly going to have to prune a few because I will eventually have to downsize the house and won’t be able to take them all with me!
Feb 12, 2022 @ 10:18:40
I’m supposed to be downsizing my book collection, but I may have to buy this one! I have just a handful of vinyl left now having sold around 1000 lps, This will definitely strike a chord – but it’s good to support indies isn’t it!
Feb 12, 2022 @ 14:04:51
It is, and these are slim volumes so shouldn’t take up too much space in your collection!!
Feb 12, 2022 @ 12:17:59
I think we do collect things that trigger happy memories, or otherwise remind us of people, places, events, etc. And it makes sense that they would become part of our identities. You can look at what people keep, and it says a lot about who they are. I really like that theme for the book, and I love music, so the vinyl would interest me, too! Glad you enjoyed it.
Feb 12, 2022 @ 14:04:20
I did – as a bit of a hoarder, much of this certainly resonated with me, and also explained why I find it so much harder to get rid of older possessions and books rather than those which arrived more recently!
Feb 12, 2022 @ 15:24:53
Your grandmother bought you metal Box! I love that. . .
Feb 12, 2022 @ 15:40:56
Um, I must have worded that really badly… 😳😳 I meant to list three precious items I still have – the first single I owned, which was Daydream Believer by the Monkees and bought for me by my grandmother; Metal Box, which I bought for myself; and my first book of Dickinson. I wish my grandmother *had* been around to buy me Metal Box, but alas she’d left us by then.
Feb 12, 2022 @ 18:21:42
This does sound very good indeed and really beautifully produced. I can certainly relate to the joy of collecting things, especially special edition releases. Coloured vinyl was quite a thing at one point in my youth (ditto picture discs, remember those?). I recall having a picture disc of Roxy Music’s Manifesto, back in the day!
Feb 12, 2022 @ 20:45:48
I do indeed recall picture discs and coloured vinyl – in fact I still have examples of both! Mr. K and I both have the collecting gene, so we’re going to have to steel ourselves at some point and be ruthless with the clearing out!!
Feb 12, 2022 @ 18:34:28
This sounds brilliant, I do love his work anyway. You’re right about being able to pass on things more recently acquired more easily; I hadn’t thought of that! Keeping the books given to me for my 50th birthday, however!!
Feb 12, 2022 @ 20:44:46
It’s really good, Liz, and I’m looking forward to the rest of them. And although I do keep special more recent books, I try to pass them on now if I don’t think I’ll ever want to revisit them!
Feb 12, 2022 @ 23:52:08
I like the sound of these i Need to downsize my book collection
Feb 13, 2022 @ 13:02:44
I’m the same – this might give you some inspiration!!
Feb 13, 2022 @ 00:59:46
We’ve moved across the country several times and that has made me leery of accumulating lots and lots of stuff, though there is a certain amount that has built up here. Sounds like an interesting press with lovely books!
Feb 13, 2022 @ 13:02:24
I think that’s a sensible way to be. As we’ve lived here for over 35 years, lots of stuff has built up and it *does* need attention!!
Feb 13, 2022 @ 07:23:15
Ah, I suspect most of us here are book hoarders to some extent. Speaking for myself, I can’t imagine parting with my books, and have no plans to downsize them at all. (I do recycle disappointments, but that’s different.)
However, I’d love to see the back of the LPs that fill the undershelves of my old oak desk. We don’t even have a thingy to play them on … and the shelves, haha, could be put to much better use…
Feb 13, 2022 @ 13:01:51
LOL, yes creating more book space would probably be a good thing. The problem here is we have big collections of lots of media (vinyl, cassettes, videotapes, cds, books) and we really couldn’t take it all with us when we downsize. Drastic action will be needed, I’m afraid… 😦
Feb 13, 2022 @ 08:32:57
Wonderful review, Kaggsy! Such beautiful editions! Such an interesting book! I’ve stopped collecting music and movies, but am holding on to my existing collections of them. Books though are a different matter – my collection keeps growing 😊 And I’m loving it 😄 Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Feb 13, 2022 @ 12:59:34
Thanks Vishy! It really is an interesting read. I don’t buy much in the way of music and films etc but the books are definitely an issue in our house!!
Feb 13, 2022 @ 12:16:33
I definitely have that need to collect things -I feel I should read this as self-help!
Feb 13, 2022 @ 12:57:47
LOL, yes, it’s certainly instructive. And the feeling of lightness he experiences when he lets things go is quite appealing…
Feb 13, 2022 @ 16:48:06
I should definitely read this as it’s something I need to reflect on! It’s only my tiny flat that stops my books spiralling out of all control. I was complaining to my mother the other day ‘I’m not a materialistic person, how have I ended up with so much stuff? How is this flat so full?’ She pointed out if I got rid of books and plants there’d be practically nothing in it 😀
Feb 13, 2022 @ 20:02:21
LOL, well plants and books are both nice things to have around, but mine definitely need thinning!!
Feb 13, 2022 @ 18:15:51
I hadn’t heard of/remembered this publisher, though I should have as I remember you talking about the Sylvia Plath book. I certainly know about collecting, moving helped me scale back a lot. I have much less stuff now, and while I do have quite a lot of books still, there are far less than there were. That habit we have of holding on to things is interesting. I watch TV programmes about the same sort of thing and it’s fascinating what some people surround themselves with.
Feb 13, 2022 @ 20:01:55
Yes, we do amass so much stuff over the years, and because it gradually accumulates I think we just get used to it. Definitely time for a purge here!!
Feb 16, 2022 @ 11:45:24
Such an interesting publisher! As for the subject of collecting, well, I’m a third generation packrat (mostly books, but other things as well) so Haslam’s book definitely appeals. A long distance move two years ago caused me to weed my own book collection, which was incredibly traumatic. Now that I’ve settled … I’ve actually started reacquiring some of the novels I previously weeded!
Feb 16, 2022 @ 14:55:41
They are – fascinating books! I’ve done exactly what you describe here, weeded and then had to track down a replacement. I guess if you’re a book addict there’s nothing to do about it!!
Feb 21, 2022 @ 01:03:33
So striking!
Feb 21, 2022 @ 09:30:10
They’re lovely books!
May 15, 2023 @ 07:00:36